Tommy Fleming, the renowned Irish folk and traditional singer, recently disclosed that he is gay. This revelation comes after the termination of his marriage, which lasted over two decades. In an interview with Ciara Kelly on Newstalk’s “The Hard Shoulder,” Fleming opened up about the struggles he faced in his personal life.
Separation and Marriage Reflection
Fleming’s marriage to Tina, aged 63, officially ended seven months ago. They had been separated since October 2025. In a statement to the Sunday Independent, Tina confirmed the couple’s separation. Fleming reflected on the cracks that developed in their relationship, acknowledging that they were never repaired. He admitted feeling uncomfortable and unhappy in his marriage.
Living a Lie
During the interview, Fleming emphasized that he had been living a lie for most of his life. He expressed relief at finally sharing his truth, stating, “It was about being uncomfortable with the situation.” The singer shared the emotional toll of maintaining this facade, highlighting the effort it took to protect his secret.
Mental Health Struggles
Fleming revealed that he had sought treatment at St. Patrick’s Mental Health Services following a suicide attempt in September. He described experiencing overwhelming sadness and hopelessness during this time. The singer disclosed that a phone conversation recorded without his knowledge while he was in treatment was subsequently leaked, which he found distressing.
Substance Use
During the interview, Fleming candidly spoke about his struggles with alcohol and drugs, stating that he used them as a form of self-medication. He indicated that these substances served to numb his feelings but emphasized that since coming out, he has no desire to drink. He described this shift as a significant change in his life.
Reflection on Relationships
When asked about any guilt regarding his marriage, Fleming expressed no regret about marrying Tina but acknowledged the hurt he has caused. He articulated his understanding of the anger from those affected by his decision to live his truth. Despite the challenges, he remains hopeful for acceptance and continues to focus on his mental health.
Looking Ahead
As Tommy Fleming looks to the future, he expressed optimism about returning to the stage. He aims to live authentically and to manage the guilt and remorse from his past. He emphasized the importance of his mental health, family, and friendships while also expressing dedication to his music career.
Fleming’s journey highlights the complexities of identity and the importance of living one’s truth. He hopes that sharing his story will lead to greater acceptance for both himself and others in similar situations.
- Tommy Fleming, folk and traditional singer, comes out as gay.
- Marriage to Tina ended after more than two decades.
- Couple separated since October 2025.
- Fleming sought treatment for mental health issues.
- He has no desire for alcohol since coming out.
- Focuses on mental well-being and future music career.
